A couple of days back when i'd gone for one of the classes of my Islamic Course there was a change in plans and we ended up watching birthing videos instead.
I've been doing a course of Islamic Fatawas regarding Women and The Mothers' of the believers at a small Islamic Markaz. Now it's like a small halaqa and we had a student of knowledge who was experienced in teaching who came and taught us. Alhamdulilah i loved going for her course.
Anyway - a lot of the Mulim Sisters who come to gain knowledge are either doctors, nurses or into some other profession. [This really made me proud of them.] Mashallah it's beautiful how Islam unites people regardless of age, nationality, race or profession.
A Sister who works in a hospital did a brief presentation on birthing and Menstruation and because she had access to birthing videos she showed them to us for the sake of knowledge.
Let's just say - i was scarred for life. It's not a easy process and i myself was cringing in my seat and closed my eyes at some of the scenes. It was funny that a lot of Mothers were doing the same thing even though they already had children. And this halaqa consists of Women who are intellectual and mature from among those a lot of were married and/or were already Mothers or were either working, etc. Let's just say we didn't have anyone below the age of sixteen. Anyway after i was watching the video - i was thinking - Maybe i'll adopt children.
[I might say that - but i think in the end i'll probably end up giving birth myself. Babies are truly joy Mashallah and Women have been doing it for ages. Right? ]
There is so much satisfaction in holding a child and putting it to sleep or playing with it. SubhanAllah. It's beautiful. That is how Allah subhanna wa taála has made Women. We love children. I have a niece [And i can proudly say that í'm her favourite aunt :D] who is about six months. Her name is Aa'isha [named after Aai'sha radi allahu anh] and i'm in absolute love with her. I think in the end it's all probably worth it.
What Islam has to say regarding Mothers and Childbirth:
Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "The woman that dies in her virginity or during her pregnancy or at the time of birth or thereafter (in nifaas) will attain the rank of a martyr."
It is mentioned in another Hadith that Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "Does it not please you (O Women!) that when you conceive from your husbands while he is pleased with you then that woman will receive such reward equal to that of a fasting person in the path of Allah and spending the night in ibaadat.
When her labour pains commence the inhabitants of the earth and the sky are unaware of the stores of comfort that are prepared for her. When she delivers and breast feeds her child then she will be granted a reward for every gulp of milk, and if she had to remain awake during the night for the sake of her child, she will receive the reward of emancipating seventy slaves in the path of Allah.
O Salaamat! Do you know who these women are? They are pious, upright, delicately natured but yet are obedient to their husbands and not ungrateful to them."
Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "A woman from her pregnancy till the time of weaning her child is like one protecting the boundaries of the Islamic state. If she passes away during this period she attains the reward of martyrdom."
In another Hadith it is mentioned that, "The woman who dies of labour pains is regarded as a martyr (shaheedah)."
The Holy Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) said: "Whoever brings up two girls until they attain adulthood, he will be with me on the Day of Judgement, and so close to me as these two (adjacent) fingers of mine (and he pointed to his two fingers joined together). (Muslim)
Narrated Ibn Abbas (radhiallaho anho): There is no Muslim, whose two daughters reach the age (of adulthood), and he is good to them as a companion, and they do not cause him to enter Paradise." (Bukhari)]
`Narrated Abu Qatadah (radhiallaho anho): The Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) said: When I stand for prayer, I intend to prolong it, but on hearing the cries of a child, I cut it short, as I dislike to trouble the child's mother." (Bukhari)
A man came to the Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) and said, "O Messenger of Allah, I want to fight and I want your advice." He asked him, "Have you a mother?" The man said, "Yes." He said, "Do not leave her because Paradise is under her feet. [ Transmitted by Al-Nisaai, 6/11; Ibn Majah, 1/278 and Al-Hakim. It is amended and approved by Al-Dhahaby, 4/151, on the authority of Muaaweya Ibn Jammah.]
A man came to the Prophet Muhammad(PBUH) asking, "Who is most deserving of my care?" He said, "Your mother." The man asked, "Then who?" He said, "Your mother." The man asked, "Then who?" He said, Your mother." The man asked (the fourth time), "Then who?" He said, "Your father. [ Transmitted by Bukhari and Muslim on the authority of Abu Huraira The Pearl and the Coral (Al-Lu'lu' wal-Marjan) (1652)]
And Subhanállah i've heard from Mothers that after giving birth they forget the amount of pain they went through because if Women didn't - they wouldn't want to give birth again.
Wa alaykumsalam warahmutallah wabarakaath