Posted By Veiled Muslimah on/at 2/21/2007 07:12:00 PM

Assalam Alaykum,

A couple of days back when i'd gone for one of the classes of my Islamic Course there was a change in plans and we ended up watching birthing videos instead.

I've been doing a course of Islamic Fatawas regarding Women and The Mothers' of the believers at a small Islamic Markaz. Now it's like a small halaqa and we had a student of knowledge who was experienced in teaching who came and taught us. Alhamdulilah i loved going for her course.

Anyway - a lot of the Mulim Sisters who come to gain knowledge are either doctors, nurses or into some other profession. [This really made me proud of them.] Mashallah it's beautiful how Islam unites people regardless of age, nationality, race or profession.

A Sister who works in a hospital did a brief presentation on birthing and Menstruation and because she had access to birthing videos she showed them to us for the sake of knowledge.

Let's just say - i was scarred for life. It's not a easy process and i myself was cringing in my seat and closed my eyes at some of the scenes. It was funny that a lot of Mothers were doing the same thing even though they already had children. And this halaqa consists of Women who are intellectual and mature from among those a lot of were married and/or were already Mothers or were either working, etc. Let's just say we didn't have anyone below the age of sixteen. Anyway after i was watching the video - i was thinking - Maybe i'll adopt children.

[I might say that - but i think in the end i'll probably end up giving birth myself. Babies are truly joy Mashallah and Women have been doing it for ages. Right? ]

There is so much satisfaction in holding a child and putting it to sleep or playing with it. SubhanAllah. It's beautiful. That is how Allah subhanna wa taála has made Women. We love children. I have a niece [And i can proudly say that í'm her favourite aunt :D] who is about six months. Her name is Aa'isha [named after Aai'sha radi allahu anh] and i'm in absolute love with her. I think in the end it's all probably worth it.

What Islam has to say regarding Mothers and Childbirth:

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "The woman that dies in her virginity or during her pregnancy or at the time of birth or thereafter (in nifaas) will attain the rank of a martyr."

It is mentioned in another Hadith that Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "Does it not please you (O Women!) that when you conceive from your husbands while he is pleased with you then that woman will receive such reward equal to that of a fasting person in the path of Allah and spending the night in ibaadat.

When her labour pains commence the inhabitants of the earth and the sky are unaware of the stores of comfort that are prepared for her. When she delivers and breast feeds her child then she will be granted a reward for every gulp of milk, and if she had to remain awake during the night for the sake of her child, she will receive the reward of emancipating seventy slaves in the path of Allah.

O Salaamat! Do you know who these women are? They are pious, upright, delicately natured but yet are obedient to their husbands and not ungrateful to them."

Rasulullah (Sallallahu alayhi wasallam) said: "A woman from her pregnancy till the time of weaning her child is like one protecting the boundaries of the Islamic state. If she passes away during this period she attains the reward of martyrdom."

In another Hadith it is mentioned that, "The woman who dies of labour pains is regarded as a martyr (shaheedah)."

The Holy Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) said: "Whoever brings up two girls until they attain adulthood, he will be with me on the Day of Judgement, and so close to me as these two (adjacent) fingers of mine (and he pointed to his two fingers joined together). (Muslim)

Narrated Ibn Abbas (radhiallaho anho): There is no Muslim, whose two daughters reach the age (of adulthood), and he is good to them as a companion, and they do not cause him to enter Paradise." (Bukhari)]

`Narrated Abu Qatadah (radhiallaho anho): The Prophet (sallallaho alaihi wasallam) said: When I stand for prayer, I intend to prolong it, but on hearing the cries of a child, I cut it short, as I dislike to trouble the child's mother." (Bukhari)

A man came to the Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) and said, "O Messenger of Allah, I want to fight and I want your advice." He asked him, "Have you a mother?" The man said, "Yes." He said, "Do not leave her because Paradise is under her feet. [ Transmitted by Al-Nisaai, 6/11; Ibn Majah, 1/278 and Al-Hakim. It is amended and approved by Al-Dhahaby, 4/151, on the authority of Muaaweya Ibn Jammah.]

A man came to the Prophet Muhammad(PBUH) asking, "Who is most deserving of my care?" He said, "Your mother." The man asked, "Then who?" He said, "Your mother." The man asked, "Then who?" He said, Your mother." The man asked (the fourth time), "Then who?" He said, "Your father. [ Transmitted by Bukhari and Muslim on the authority of Abu Huraira The Pearl and the Coral (Al-Lu'lu' wal-Marjan) (1652)]

And Subhanállah i've heard from Mothers that after giving birth they forget the amount of pain they went through because if Women didn't - they wouldn't want to give birth again.

Wa alaykumsalam warahmutallah wabarakaath

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redstar said...

How does the Prophet (PBUH) telling the guy not to go and fight but to look after his mother fit in with Umm Suraaqah and the previous article about going off to fight Jihad?

Q80 Pandora said...

I like your blog. Unfortunately these days its hard to talk about religion and not be scorned or shunned.

I went through a 'religious phase' around 4 years ago but quit after a year and a half because I doubted this extreme form of religion was what I should be practising.

Don't get me wrong. I make sure I pray 5 times (though I am often late), i wear my hijab (though I have ditched the abaya and wear trousers) and I also listen to music.
Unfortunately many Muslims today are confused as to what is the true form of practice..

For some reason I find myself envying your committment.

Mashalla o allah itamim 3alaich ameen..

Veiled Muslimah said...

redstar: Why do you even visit this blog if your intent is to keep on questioning Islam and finding fault with it?

There are certain rules and regulations about Jihad. Mothers arn't the only 'Women' in Islam. You have wives, sisters, daughters, aunts. The article urges the Muslim Women on the whole to encourage their Men. But the Mother is given high status and if she is alone and there is no one to look after her, it is more important then Jihad for a Man to look after her and take care of her.

q80 pandora: Assalam Alaykum ukkhti, jazakallah khair for the input. Thank you for visiting my blog. I know its hard, but us being Muslims, we should have strength and keep our head up.

I understand everyone goes through phases and we all have our own shortcomings and stuggles.

I started out small, one step at a time too and slowly but surely things increased. It can be tough, i know. May Allah subhanna wa taála make us pious Muslims who follow the right path. Ameen.

Ameen to the dua. :)

Anonymous said...

Sahih Bukhari Volume 7, Book 62, Number 64
Narrated 'Aisha:
that the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years (i.e., till his death).

redstar said...

I visit the blog because I'm interested in Islam and you write interesting posts. If you don't welcome questions, let me know - I'm simply trying to understand a bit more about what makes many muslims tick. This post simply seemed to contradict what had been written earlier, hence my query.

Anonymous said...

Redstar: Islam is such a broad religion (a way of life really) that what may at first glance seem like a contradiction, once you look into it you will soon understand that it is not. Perhaps two hadiths at face value seem to be saying two different things but after you understand the circumstances behind the hadith being said, who the hadith is directed to and in what situation etc you will find that both of them make perfect sense for what they were intended for. Coming from a revert to Islam I questioned alot in the beginning, and its OK to question if you are sincerely interested in Islam. However if you are questioning to try and annoy other muslims then you might get what you want but is it really worth your time?
q80 pandora -
May Allah (swt) give you hidiya and bless you with the sweetness of Iman. It can be very hard these days practising Islam and extremism in any case is not encouraged. Alhamdulilah you are doing your salah and wearing the hijab. Also the fact that you may envy veiled muslimah, this is a sign of iman. Make dua, the power of dua is phonomenal.
There is no need for us muslims to be confused as to what we should or should not practice. The prophet (saw) left us with two sources of knowledge. The QURAN and the SUNNAH. If we refer back to these two things in all matters then surely we cannot go astray.

Veiled Muslimah said...

redstar: I'm sorry i snapped. I wasn't in a good mood yesterday and i've got some extremely ignorant and insulting remarks from people in the past. I don't discourage people from asking questions and i know you haven't insulted or been rude about it so my apologies.

anonymous 1: Your point is?

Anonymous: Jazakallah khair for the explanation. May Allah subhanna wa taála give you ajar. Its always wonderful coming across reverts. It strengthens ones imaan.


Anonymous said...

do you go to MArkaz - ul- huda?

wassalaam umm abdullah

Mahwash said...

dont worry sister.. its truly not as bad as it seems.. i mean it WILL hurt. Have you ever looked closely at those women who talk about their birth and labor experiences? take a closer look next time you are in sucha conversation... their body language and their facial expressions will never be like that of a person who is narrating a horrifying and painful incident that happened to them. When women talk about how bad it was.. and how hard it is to stay up all night and how difficult it gets to bring up children as they get older.. take a closer look at them.. no where will u find regret.. if you ask them they will tell you that if they had a chance to go back in time and do it all over again.. they would do the same:)
thats the beauty of motherhood..
i only understood this after having my own son.. but then again.. my labour went smoothly and it was over quickly..and he is an amazing boy mahsAllahand never once kept me uup all night upunti now..
its hard but its all worth it and then some more:_)

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